Something Borrowed – Let’s Talk Tradition.
Couples are beginning to grow out of traditions and make their own new ones. However, some of those older traditions have meaning. One of the traditions that many brides believe in is “something borrowed, something new, and something blue.” Although these traditions aren’t mandatory, many brides like to incorporate them into their weddings regardless.
“Something borrowed” is what slightly complicates this tradition. Many women don’t have a clue as to what’s supposed to be worn, and who it’s going to come from. Where or who are they supposed to borrow from? Are there rules to it?
When this tradition originated, the bride would borrow undergarments from a friend or family member who had a healthy marriage and healthy children. It was meant to symbolize fertility. Over time, the tradition has evolved from its Victorian origin.
In an ideal situation, the goal is to borrow from somewhere or someone with positive energy. This energy is going to be carried with the bride on her wedding day, so it should come from someone in a strong and happy relationship. Perhaps the bride’s parents, if she wants the fortune of their marriage. Ideally, borrowing from someone who has been in bad relationships or has never been married isn’t preferred. The transference of energy from objects is a belief spread through various cultures.
Exceptions can definitely be made. The object has to have powerful energy, but it can come from a close friend. As long as the object has been kept for all the right reasons and emits positive energy, it’s an option. In most situations, this item will come from another woman, but that doesn’t mean that it can’t come from a man. As long as the energy surrounding him or the object isn’t negative, you're good to go.
A few examples of things that can be borrowed are a piece of jewelry from the bride's mother, or maybe an accessory from her grandmother.
Although the tradition seems outdated (and slightly confusing), it’s powerful. Increasing the positive energy surrounding your big day isn’t a bad idea, even if it’s reliant on an old tradition.